WOMEN & HARASSMENT: OUR EVERYDAY LIVES!!

Dear Men,

This letter is not to play any victim card here but to actually write what I feel like when I experience social abuse. 

If you knock some sense into your head, you may get the point that randomly messaging girls on social media and saying you need help with something is not going to get you a bride. Nor is it a way through which girls can be approached. And what is with these nude pics? I mean, if you are that interested in human physiology, you could’ve taken medicine. Let that apart; some men actually start sexting randomly and when you open your Facebook account and see such messages, trust me it feels horrible to be a girl because in the society we live in, we will be told to change ourselves because apparently its our fault, not men’s.

But some men will never understand the concept of social abuse and how women are being affected by it.

How would you feel, if out of nowhere and random person starts calling you just because he wants to talk to you for no godamn reason.

This is not decent behavior at all. I mean c’mon, you all men out there who text a girl despite against her consent, call a girl because apparently you want to feed you desperate desires and even those who comment randomly on pictures saying looking hot bla bla, pls get some senses. Trust me it doesn’t feels nice. And you think that’s the way you will get a girl into talking to you? Crap! Where do you dump your egos before leaving a thousand messages on a random stranger’s phone?

and oh I forgot to mention the “hero types”. The ones that send you a proposal and then if God forbid you say no, they say they never take no for an answer and start blackmailing you by saying they wud attempt suicide and all that crap. Dude listen to me, get out of the Bollywood movies. Welcome to real life. Here, neither are you a hero of some play, nor is the world some wish granting factory. But all thanks to bollywood movies for actually promoting such culture of voilence and abuse. 

• The types and ways of abuse are so enormous that I can even write a book on it. The most common form is seen on the streets of our bazaar. If you are trying to cross a road, some creeps on bike will come and start hooting and passing comments as if they have never in their entire life seen a girl. But what do you know, afterall you are never been chased by bikers and being hooted on, you are never the one that feels the peircing eyes of the men when you are out in the market doing grocery. You have never experienced  the fear while walking home from office on the long and lonesome alleys yet dark alleys when you feel being followed. You can never know the real struggle a women faces every single day of her life because for you, liberty is a license issued by your gender from birth. But if you don’t want to raise your daughters in one such society, you must change yourself. For heaven’s sake, don’t start making fun of feminist campaigns and for once, try to understand those campaigns, try to see it from a perspective that it creates a positive trend in society, a trend where your daughters feel safe when they leave the house.

The dilemma is that every single girl experiences such kind of abuse almost every single day of their life but if men won’t get that if they aren’t willing to create a society where women are treated the same way as men. If they only see feminism as a red light indicating the exploitation of men, and if they don’t accept that they should and must change their behavior to create the right environment for their daughters, then we would never be able to change our patriarchal and abusive societies. I know that all men are not crap. I have guy best friends with whom I can share every tiny detail of my life, with whom I feel the safest and who are more like family. But there are also men who are creeps. So the least you can do is never keep calm when you see such abuse happening near or around you. Talk to the person whom you may know who uses social media to exploit girls by using their pictures blatantly, tell your friends how it’s not okay to brag about their girlfriends in front of the whole gang, and watch out for incidents where women are harassed in public and don’t just stand there and watch rather speak up, do the right thing, make your fellow men understand that how important it is to respect women and most importantly be that person who never accepts such behavior, speaks up and stands for the rights of women as much as they do for men.
#saynotowomenabuse #peacetoall!!